Introduction

There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Separation anxiety is a natural part of a child’s development, usually resolving by the age of three. However, some children struggle with it well beyond this age, affecting their ability to participate in activities, attend school, or enjoy new experiences. Through my storytelling and reading sessions, I have encountered children with varying levels of separation anxiety. One such case was Parth, a six-year-old boy who found it incredibly difficult to be away from his parents. His journey provided valuable insights into the roots of separation anxiety and how parents can help their children navigate through it.

Understanding Separation Anxiety: The Case of Parth

Parth’s attachment to his family was so strong that he struggled to attend reading sessions. Even when he did, he remained anxious, frequently checking to ensure his guardian was present. His restlessness prevented him from fully engaging in the activities, leaving him unable to enjoy or benefit from the sessions.

Upon speaking with his mother, it became clear that Parth's anxiety stemmed from his parents' busy schedules. Feeling left out and alone most of the day made him insecure, leading to clingy behavior whenever they were around. His case highlights how parental absence, even if unintentional, can create deep-seated fears in children.

Common Causes of Separation Anxiety

Lack of parental presence: Long hours without parents can make children fearful of being abandoned.

Broken promises: Inconsistency in commitments erodes trust and security.

Limited quality time: Emotional bonds weaken when parents are physically present but not fully engaged.

Lack of communication: Ignoring their fears can prolong anxiety and dependence.

Ways to Support Your Child

1. Provide Physical Reassurance

Hugs, kisses, and warm embraces help children feel secure and loved.

2. Keep Promises and Be Punctual

If you tell your child you’ll return at a certain time, ensure you do. If delays occur, call and reassure them.

3. Engage in Quality Time

Give your child undivided attention—no gadgets, no distractions. Play games, have conversations, or read together.

4. Encourage Independence

Assign small tasks to boost their confidence and use storytelling to promote bravery and self-reliance.

5. Be Patient and Communicative

Avoid scolding or blaming. Instead, talk gently about their fears and gradually help them become comfortable with short separations.

Conclusion

Separation anxiety can be challenging, but with patience, love, and consistency, children can learn to feel secure even when apart. By fostering trust and emotional security, parents can help their children grow into confident, resilient individuals.